As we approach Rosh Hashanah, let’s be mindful of those experiencing challenges on their fertility journey. Here’s why Rosh Hashanah can be emotionally triggering and some tips on supporting others around this time.
- The sound of laughter from children, the blessings for fruitful years – these moments can stir up a complex mix of emotions.
- Rosh Hashanah is a time for new beginnings and fresh starts. For someone experiencing infertility, these expectations of newness and growth might magnify their feelings of disappointment and frustration.
- Symbolic foods like apples and honey, representing sweetness and new beginnings, can be bittersweet reminders of unfulfilled dreams for someone experiencing infertility.
- Family gatherings and communal prayers during Rosh Hashanah can lead to questions or comments about family planning and increase feelings of inadequacy or sadness in those facing infertility.
Here’s how you can support:
- Don’t ask people about their infertility because they may not want to share.
- Hold space for their feelings. If they want to share, be there to listen without judgement, offering a safe space to express their feelings.
- Be mindful of their emotions during family gatherings. Sometimes, questions about family planning can be sensitive. Include them in conversations in a way that respects their feelings.
- Reach out beyond holidays and special occasions. Their journey continues beyond Rosh Hashanah.
