REMEMBER
It’s OK to feel completely devastated
It’s OK to hide away from well-meaning family and friends and give yourself space to process
and grieve your loss. You have not only lost your baby but also all the hopes and dreams that
you had for them.
It’s OK to be jealous of anyone who has a baby or announces a new pregnancy
It’s OK to have days where you cry, even a few months after the miscarriage
It’s OK to feel temporarily disconnected from your other children
It’s OK to grieve differently to your partner
It’s OK to get ridiculously angry for no reason at all
It’s OK to feel like you need to control every other aspect of your life
It’s OK to question why this happened to you
It’s OK to lose your confidence in other areas of your life
It’s OK to feel like a failure as a woman
It’s OK to believe that you will never have a baby
It’s OK to be obsessed with conceiving another baby
It’s OK to never want to try and have another baby
It’s OK to want to obsessively hold and cuddle other people’s babies
It’s OK to not want to even look at anyone else’s baby
It’s OK to want someone to guarantee that it will never happen again
It’s OK to feel completely out of control when no-one can do this
It’s OK to feel none of the above and to move on from the experience with little effect to your life
Source: https://www.pinkelephants.org.au/page/73/emotional-support
Find more resources online at pinkelephants.org.au
Contributed by Terry Diamond, Perinatal Bereavement Counsellor, Sydney’s Eastern Suburbs. 2016
