Introduction
Introduction with Sarah Robuck, Psychologist
1. Understanding the Grief
What would you want someone who has just experienced a miscarriage or pregnancy loss to know about grief?
2. Understanding the Grief
Is there a “normal” way to grieve a miscarriage, or can grief look very different from person to person?
3. Understanding the Grief
Why can the grief following a miscarriage feel so overwhelming, even when the pregnancy was very early?
4. Understanding the Grief
The concept of “permission to grieve” is important. People can sometimes feel that an early miscarriage isn't a loss they are “allowed” to grieve, particularly when others minimise what has happened. How can someone give themselves permission to grieve their loss?
5. Understanding the Grief
What are some of the emotions people commonly experience after a pregnancy loss, and why might those emotions change from day to day?
6. Coping with Everyday Life
Many people blame themselves after a miscarriage. How can they begin to let go of feelings of guilt or responsibility for something that was outside their control?
7. Guilt and Self-Blame
How can people prepare themselves for difficult situations, such as seeing pregnant women or babies, hearing pregnancy announcements, or attending baby showers?
8. Guilt and Self-Blame
Why can social media become particularly difficult after pregnancy loss, and is it okay to step away from it for a while?
9. Guilt and Self-Blame
How can someone cope with returning to work or everyday life when they are still grieving?
10. Guilt and Self-Blame
What are some practical things someone can do on the days when the grief feels particularly overwhelming?
11. When Grief Continues
Are there particular rituals or ways of acknowledging the baby that can help someone process and honour their loss?
12. A Message for Someone Experiencing Loss
If you could sit beside someone who has just experienced a miscarriage and say one thing to them — something they may need to hear but may not be able to tell themselves right now — what would you say?
